{"id":11732,"date":"2026-05-17T08:08:21","date_gmt":"2026-05-17T08:08:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/honglay168.com\/?p=11732"},"modified":"2026-05-17T08:08:21","modified_gmt":"2026-05-17T08:08:21","slug":"note-to-self-never-play-search-and-rescue-for-a-boyfriend-who-forgets-you-exist-the-second-he-spots-a-free-barbecue-19","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/honglay168.com\/?p=11732","title":{"rendered":"Note to self: Never play search-and-rescue for a boyfriend who forgets you exist the second he spots a free barbecue."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8230;them about a mile upstream, but the sight waiting for me was the absolute last thing I expected.<\/p>\n<p>I had been pushing through brush and scrambling over slippery rocks, genuinely worried that one of them had twisted an ankle or gotten swept into a rough patch of water. My hangover was pounding behind my eyes, my stomach was growling, and my anxiety was peaking.<\/p>\n<p>Then, I heard laughter. Loud, obnoxious, booming laughter echoing through the trees.<\/p>\n<p>I pushed through a final thicket of bushes into a wide clearing by the riverbank, and there they were. They weren&#8217;t injured. They weren&#8217;t lost. Nate and his friend had somehow stumbled upon a massive campsite where a large group of people were throwing a riverside barbecue.<\/p>\n<p>Not only were they perfectly safe, but they were sitting comfortably in fold-out camping chairs, holding fresh beers, and laughing hysterically with a bunch of strangers. A grill was smoking in the background, and Nate was holding a half-eaten hot dog.<\/p>\n<p>My jaw actually dropped. I had been sitting alone, hungover, starving, and increasingly panicked for an hour and a half, while my boyfriend was out here crashing a party without a single thought about the girlfriend he left waiting.<\/p>\n<p>I marched right up to the group, completely out of breath and furious. Nate caught my eye, his face lighting up with oblivious joy.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Babe! You found us!&#8221; he grinned, gesturing with his hot dog. &#8220;Come grab a burger, these guys are awesome! They just offered us some food.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I didn&#8217;t yell\u2014I didn&#8217;t want to make a scene in front of these strangers who were just trying to be hospitable to two wandering idiots. I just looked at him, completely deadpan, and said, &#8220;I told you I was tired and hungry an hour and a half ago. I have been searching the woods for you for thirty minutes because I thought you were hurt. We are leaving. Now.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The mood in the circle instantly evaporated. Nate\u2019s friend immediately put his beer down on the grass, looking deeply embarrassed, and started gathering his towel. Nate tried to argue, whining a little bit about how they were just about to eat, but the absolute death glare I shot him shut that down immediately.<\/p>\n<p>I turned to the campers, forced a polite smile, and said, &#8220;Thank you for looking after them, but it&#8217;s time for us to go.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I turned around and started the long trek back to the car. I didn&#8217;t look back once, but I could hear them trailing silently behind me the entire way like scolded puppies.<\/p>\n<p>The hour-long drive back to the city was dead silent. I refused to turn on the radio, letting the awkwardness fill the car. Every time Nate tried to whisper an apology or justify it by saying they &#8220;just lost track of time,&#8221; I reminded him who was providing the transportation, who drove them an hour out of the way while hungover, and who was left completely alone while they partied.<\/p>\n<p>By the time I dropped his friend off and pulled up to Nate&#8217;s house, I unlocked the doors and told him I was going home alone. We ended up having a massive conversation the next day about basic respect, communication, and consideration for my time. 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