{"id":117390,"date":"2026-08-07T03:16:53","date_gmt":"2026-08-07T03:16:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/honglay168.com\/?p=117390"},"modified":"2026-08-07T03:16:53","modified_gmt":"2026-08-07T03:16:53","slug":"after-escaping-an-abusive-home-at-17-my-boyfriend-and-i-spent-years-building-a-life-from-almost-nothing-when-we-finally-invited-our-families-over-to-celebrate-my-mother-mocked-the-secondhand-couch-8","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/honglay168.com\/?p=117390","title":{"rendered":"After escaping an abusive home at 17, my boyfriend and I spent years building a life from almost nothing. When we finally invited our families over to celebrate, my mother mocked the secondhand couch we were so proud of. 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